Success and Personal Freedom: Why you need to make it your business to delete the wussy in you!
by Simon Lee | on September 18, 2012
Success and Personal Freedom: Why you need to make it your business to delete the wussy in you! The Story of my Life…. From third world to first world.
I was born into a world of strife and struggle, perhaps that is where this story truly begins. Our lives are so greatly impacted by our history, before we even realize it is happening, our experiences are forming beliefs within our minds of what will eventually become our perspective on all things. As a young child in war torn Cambodia, my family had to escape from the Pol Pot regime.
My parents fled through the jungles of South East Asia, forced to walk for miles until they reached the safety of a Thailand refugee camp. There we remained until we were sponsored out of the camp. I was only six years old at the time, but I can still remember the relief my parents felt to finally be home, in Australia. Even though it was our new home, many things changed in our lives, and it was still difficult at first. All of my life I have compared my suffering to the extreme obstacles my parents both faced and overcame. Whenever I became unhappy with what I was given, I would remind myself to be grateful. So I worked hard to build a life I hoped would be prosperous and stable. Instead, I ended up in a place of repetitive failure. I sunk so low within myself that I believed I would never be happy, that life was not meant to be enjoyed. I probably would have continued to live my life in just that way, were it not for one completely average day, when I finally followed my own instincts.
It was time for work again. My heart sunk as my weary body tore itself out of bed. It seemed as if I was on a constant cycle, of wake up tired, go to work tired, come home tired. I could not remember the last time I felt rested. Maybe there was something to be said for the world I had once dreamed about. It was a world in which pursuing my passion, working hard for my goals, created reward and success. If there was, I was not the one to say it. I had done everything right, according to my beliefs. I had chosen a career that I had a passion for. I had kept my head down and paid my dues in the kitchen as I trained to be a master chef. Instead of that achievement bringing me fulfillment however, I found myself dreading going to work each day.
As I stepped into the kitchen of my small home I could smell breakfast being prepared. My wife was handing out toast to our children who were huddled around a small kitchen table. She looked as weary as I felt, and when she met my eyes I knew that she was dreading her day as much as I was dreading mine. Once I had believed in the dream, that anything could happen if I put my mind to it. I imagined I would be living in a large house, with a big sparkling pool, fancy new cars to drive, and a life of ease to enjoy. It was what I had promised myself, and my wife. Instead we were living paycheck to paycheck, shuffling the bills like a deck of cards, and barely keeping food on the table, despite my career as a chef.
I wrapped my arms around my wife’s waist and held her close. She smiled, but I could tell that it was forced. My light kiss on her cheek was no longer a reassurance, it was an apology for what we had both accepted we would never have. I could not figure out where I had gone wrong, what mistakes I had made that had left me in squalor despite my best intentions. I rushed off to work, and she rushed the kids off to school. We saw each other for about an hour each night, and even then it was tense as we were both always exhausted.
When I arrived at work to find a huge mess waiting for me, I knew it was going to be another one of those days that started out bad and just never got better. A familiar fear seized me from the inside. It was a fear of failure that had haunted me all of my life. Everything I put my heart into seemed to end up as a big disappointment. Each day I stepped inside of the restaurant I was certain that was where it was headed as well. I felt as if I was drowning in indecision. Every option I considered had its own set of risks and uncertainties that left me too paralyzed by fear to make a move forward. So I followed my cycle, my waking nightmare that I had created for myself, and tried not to think about it. The more I ignored the unrest within me, the more it would rile up my emotions, leaving me short tempered and easily frustrated.
A big part of me knew that there was more to life than what I was experiencing but I kept ignoring that instinct. In my mind it was too late for dreams, I had given up and accepted that this was the life I was destined for, struggling to make just enough. Once I had straightened out everything so that the kitchen was running smoothly I stole away to my small office. I closed the door and locked it behind me. It had become a habit for me to drown my sorrows in alcohol, which only made my exhaustion more difficult to deal with.
I slumped down in my chair and sighed as I took a sip of the only thing that could wipe away the emotions that threatened to strangle me. I felt so trapped, so pinned down to a fruitless cycle that in many ways was akin to torture. I was engaged in a constant battle with the nagging instinct inside of me that kept insisting, I was destined for so much more than drinking my life away. Still, the world around me kept proving to me day after day that I would never make it. The bills still came in the mail. The restaurant still suffered. At the end of the day I barely had a chance to see my family, let alone enjoy spending time with them.
It was that afternoon that I began to feel a change within me. Instead of sinking deeper as I usually did, I fought back. For once I listened to that small insistent voice, that never gave up on me, even though I never took the time to listen to it. I opened my eyes, and I drew a deep breath, and I became determined to make a change, even if I did not know what that change might be.
As I stepped out of that back room, I felt the first twinge of empowerment, as if I knew what was to come before I discovered it. Things did not change right away of course, there were still problems to handle and mouths to feed, but I felt just a touch of liberation in thinking that they might.
That night I sat down with my wife and we discussed what our lives had become. She confessed her daily fear and stress levels were through the roof, and I admitted that I felt as if I was a failure as a husband and a father. We had been down this road before, with my dreams costing us quite a bit. In 2004 I had ventured into the online world and became enthralled by the options for starting businesses. They all promised such great things, but in the end all of the programs I downloaded, all of the systems that were going to change my life, caused me to have severe information overload and a huge balance on my credit card. I was embarrassed by the failure, and had once more resigned to barely making it as a chef. Confronting the issues that haunted me, bringing up each failure that I felt I had experienced in life, was one of the most difficult journeys I have ever taken, but also one of the most important. The deeper I dug into me, the lighter I began to feel. I had been holding so tightly to my past, as if it was all I was. I had been beaten down by my own thoughts, beliefs, and limitations to the point that I could not even remember how to dream, how to look forward to the future. My entire existence was about survival, just making it to the next paycheck. I had let go of any self esteem, any self worth, that I might have once claimed. Without even realizing it, I had become a shell of a person, barely living, barely thinking, and doing my best to avoid feeling. We both agreed that night that no matter what, we had to find a way out.
That was the first step in my healing and growth process. I did not know it then, but by realizing how lost I was, I had opened myself up to the possibility of success finally being found. I no longer looked at every situation as another burden to carry. Instead I used my frustration as a motivator to keep searching for that opportunity that I instinctively knew was out there waiting for me. One day as I was researching different options that might work for me and my family, I stumbled across the Empower Network. At first I was a little skeptical as the stories I read of real people having real success were a bit hard to swallow. It was exactly what I desired, and the idea that it could be so simple and so accessible actually terrified me. I felt as if I had finally reached that opportunity I had been asking for, yet when I had it right there in front of me I was too scared to take it. My past reared its ugly head and demanded that I get back in line, that I fall back into the cycle I had been drifting through. I am so grateful to this organization and all they have taught me.
I knew if I was ever going to accomplish my dreams, I would have to permanently delete the wussy in me. The part of me that was so used to struggling that it was too afraid to change. Luckily, that instinct inside of me that had been insisting all of my life that there was more in store for me, was there to nag away. I remembered the promise that I had made myself, that I would find a way to make a change, even if it meant feeling some discomfort, some fear. Empower Network seemed to be exactly the place for me to make that change, as it had been for so many others. The people who had already had success with the unique system were just like me at one time. They were struggling, and determined to find a way to live life as more than someone elses employee. I decided to take that leap, to delete the wussy in me, and finally let go of the past that had convinced me I had no life left to live.
I am so glad I did! I had been making maybe seventy thousand in my job as a chef, barely enough to cover the rent, and necessities of my family. After only a few months of dedication I was almost making my entire yearly income within a few months. I am now looking into purchasing a second home as an investment. I no longer have to force myself out of bed in the morning, I leap out ready to meet the day’s challenge, and enjoy the fruits of my labor. I can not explain how enormously my life has changed from an existence of survival, to a pursuit of passion. I know that I would still be in that cycle, in that dead end routine, of wake up tired, go to work tired, and come home exhausted if it had not been for following my own instincts and discovering the Empower Network.
If you are experiencing life the way I was, then I have written this story just for you. No one deserves to suffer, no one deserves to be without. Success is within everyone’s grasp if we just reach out for it. We have to be brave enough to ask, to try, to take a chance and dive right in. It took me twenty years of working for someone else to finally wake up and realize that I had another choice. I had other options, that I was too blind to see. Joining the Empower Network has done more than make me financially successful. It has given me back my dreams. It was given me the opportunity to enjoy and savor my own time, and my time with my wife and children. I no longer believe in the limitations I created for myself, I have broken free of the past and am ready to accept the beautiful future that awaits me. My present is full of joy, of success, and of the pleasures that everyone deserves to experience. Put down that bill, staring at it won’t get it paid. Put down that uniform, that name tag that leads to a dead end job, and join me. This can be your own personal revolution, a chance to rediscover what life was actually meant to be, before we got lost in the jungle of living paycheck to paycheck. Take a breath with me, and delete the wussy in you, before another year slips by. Just like myself and all these other Empower Network Associates and big time badasses at empower, watch this video to see how they All Did IT!
The Empower Network has Empowered me to change my life. I am so very grateful for being given such a wonderful opportunity. Now… I’m giving You,… the opportunity to do the same, only if you really want it though. Like I’ve always said… If you really want something bad enough…. you’ll work your butt off, do whatever it takes until you reach that goal, that destination!!
The only way I can think to show that gratitude, is by sharing my experience with as many people as I can. I want to reach other people that need a chance to wake up, to live the life that they deserve, to finally be truly free. No one should live the way I did, not for another minute if they are brave enough to change it. I know how hard it can be to make that choice, to jump all in for your future, for your life, for your freedom. If you are ready to take that step, feel free to look me up anytime, and work with me – Simon Lee ..
Empower to you!