How Jealousy Can Create Results
by Kevin Tan | on November 13, 2011
It’s human nature to compare ourselves to other people…we just can’t help it. We want to look like models or athletes, make money like the moguls or even have the car our neighbor is driving around in.
I remember when I wanted to go to Astroworld with some friends one summer. Since it was a hot day, they wanted to go to Waterworld instead. Being in high school, I was pretty uncomfortable with how I looked. I was chubby and really didn’t have the wit and humor other people had to make up for my physical insecurities.
I’m going to stop the story for a minute.
Jealousy can take us in one of two directions: Self-pity or newfound work ethic. It seems many people take the self-pity route because it’s simply the easier way to go. Oh woe is me…nobody cares about little old me. I wish I could be *insert quality*. Of course there are always the people who decide to do something about it.
Coming back to my story, I eventually decided to start working out. I played football and wrestling all year long. I was in the weight room all the time and it was starting to show. Eventually I found I actually had some athletic talent and just needed to sharpen it. Naturally I gained a breakthrough that showed me not only how to overcome physical insecurities, but also any other obstacle that comes my way.
I like to take on the challenge of being better than the person I’m jealous of. Even if I can’t be as good as them, I know I can at least become a better person by going through the process. I may not be as good as Michael Jordan, but I can put in the same work ethic. I might not make as much as money as Bill Gates, but I can study what he did and find a way to emulate that.
This situation applies to network marketing too.
There are million dollar earners in this industry, people who can close with what seems to be zero effort, people who can make $10,000 dollars at the flip of a switch and people who have a story of rags to riches.
I know when I first started; I was extremely jealous and wanted to be like these success stories. It got worse later in my marketing career when I couldn’t produce even after being trained for several months. How is this other guy coming out of nowhere after me and sponsoring 2-4 people into his primary business every single day?
What I eventually realized was that I needed a mindset breakthrough. I wasn’t focusing on the right things in order to actually make some money. So I started listening to audios every single day and read just a little bit every single day. What ended up happening was my language started to change.
I started speaking like the top earners and the connection I was having with my team and my leads was growing simply because my subconscious was resonating well with them.
The moral of the story is this: you can take one of two different roads when you see someone who is doing better than you in this industry. You can either cry about how you’re not getting results like them or you can try to figure out what you’re doing wrong in order to be at their level. Become a better person and accept the challenge to be a better marketer today.